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Personality types, personality disorders/differences, communication styles, learning disabilities/differences, learning styles, cognitive abilities, cultural, social, economic and diversity differences all have a huge impact on how we communicate and it's in this group that we hope to overcome challenges to uncover a better, happier existence.

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Jul. 13th, 2006 @ 05:16 pm (no subject)
Hi, I'm new here, I think this is where I introduce myself, I'm Ian Barefoot I'm an INFP
and on the Ansir Kinsmen, Healer, Sentinel.
I'm also interested in improving my communication skills.
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ian
guddlesocks:
Aug. 5th, 2006 @ 01:47 am Intro & Introversion :-) & Beethoven Enneagram?
Hi all,

I just joined. I wrote an essay ("Confessions of an Introvert") about being introverted (I'm INTP - "architect" works for me as I'm a web site developer). I've read a lot of books about both Enneagrams and Meyers-Briggs. My latest favorites are "The Happy Introvert" and "Are You My Type, Am I Yours?" I was thinking about checking out "The Beethoven Enneagram" by the same author, but using music to illustrate it. If you've heard it, please let me know what you thought about it. Thanks!
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me working and singing
uu_mom:
Jan. 20th, 2006 @ 10:06 pm The Haven
Current Mood: boredbored
Hi all...
I'm doing some reading of "The Relationship Garden" and "The New Manual for Life", and wonder if anyone else is reading and would like to discuss.

They are written by a team of people from The Haven, a therpeutic "school" in British Columbia.

If you are versed in their works, philosophies and principles, I'm learning and am looking to discuss.
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Satiated & satisfied
locus_ofcontrol:
Dec. 14th, 2005 @ 09:32 am Master degree in Intercultural communication, Jyväskylä FINLAND


Sorry for this spam, but thought that some of you might be interested. (feel free to forward if you know someone who might be interested.) You can always improve your understanding of other by studying communication. ;)

INTERCULTURAL COMMUNICATION INVITES APPLICATIONS FOR MASTERS DEGREE
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I am currently studying in this programme, so you can ask me if you want to know more...
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juzka
juzka81:
Jan. 2nd, 2006 @ 03:14 pm Introduction
I am a "kinsman, healer, idealist".

I am interested in communication styles which help people be more effective in thier interactions with others.

I am keen right now on data from "the Haven.com" 's work around intent and intimacy, as well as exploring NLP's perspective on the effect of the message...being the message...

I am a social worker by trade but do most of my communication work ON ME... in order to better effectively serve my clients.

that's me.
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Satiated & satisfied
locus_ofcontrol:
Oct. 29th, 2005 @ 09:13 pm (no subject)
Ha! I took the MBTI personality test, and I learned that I am an INTJ.

I also took the ANSIR test.

Thinking: Evokateur
Working: Scintillator
Emoting: Sentinel

Interesting.

But what do these test results have to do with my communication skills?

I am pretty bad communicator, I think. I can't argue. I think this is my greatest weakness. Whenever I have to argue or defend my case before others, my brain freezes, and I can't think or say what I need to say. Is there any miracle cure for this?
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coldweather9:
Jan. 6th, 2005 @ 06:12 pm The Life Cycle -- Accomplishments and Happiness
Introduction
Growth
Maturity
Decline

I love using The Life Cycle -- which is often used in business regarding products -- because it is a universal principle that applies to so many life problems.

Okay, so I apply the universal "Life Cycle" principle to our happiness in relationships and work. Again, I'm being really simplistic and leaving stuff out because I just don't have the time and financial luxury of elaborating on a lot of stuff -- that means the "quality" of how and what I say is diminished. But of course, I'm interested in hearing what others have to say.

I'm *also* going to add a "crisis" section underneath each phase to state the "negative" aspects of the phase moving forward.

The introduction phase is all about the newness of the thing. In relationships, that can be the first meetings and in work, the first few weeks. It's all about discovery and possibilities.
Crisis If one is always looking for the new, then nothing can grow and that deep intimate knowledge can never happen. A lot of superficiality occurs.

The growth phase is all about making things "happen". In relationships, this can mean moving towards getting a place together, vacationing, and blossoming the relationship with "truths" and healing each other's "pasts". In work, this can mean being in charge of a project that has a great effect on the work place.
Crisis If people get stuck in the growth stage they are more likely to never make anything "worthwhile" happen!

The maturity phase is all about standardizing and stabilizing. In relationships, this can mean getting married, having babies, getting a house, etc. etc... In work, this can mean setting standards, creating documentations, policies and procedures.
Crisis If you don't allow innovation and the intro, growth cycle to re-occur -- the road leads to decline and that means having to scramble to re-new the situation. Good planning allows for change.

The decline phase is about staleness. The relationship might undergo a divorce, separation, or an affair. In work situations, a lay-off, wanting to quit, or huge dissatisfaction might occur.
Crisis If this stage comes to the surface, it's hard to dig oneself out of the situation. A lot of people run and cut their losses but it doesn't have to be that way.
...

With this, we all have a "place" we love to hover about the most. For my partner it's the "Introduction and Growth" stage. For me it's the "Maturity and then back to Growth stage". In my case, when it comes to work, this means that I love to put together plans, document processes and procedures, and help stabilize; however, I DO NOT want to be stuck in what I created. Or forced by "upper management" to succumb to my own designs. I want the option of re-visiting, updating, and innovating.

If I don't have that option, I usually quickly have a crisis and usually choose to leave that employer.

...

Why is any of this important?

Because once you understand which area of the cycle you like to be in, you can either a) advise the people you live and work with, b) do things that allow you to stay in the cycle that's most comfortable and that can be done so in a healthy way.

i.e. My partner is most interested in the "growth" stages so he needs a lot of "chaos" and "fun" in whatever he does. I need stability. We balance each other off and since I'm also partial to growth, I really understand what he needs. Instead of forcing him to "stay" in the "maturity" mode, I give him breathers and pick up where he slacks and vice versa.

And I guess my thesis is: Revolve the cycle and avoid decline. And by understanding which state you ar likely to hover in, this can be communicated to the people that need to know (including yourself) so something can be done to allow you to stay in that state for as long as possible while cycling out to maintain balance.

Again, this is all simple talk with a whole bunch of holes in the story. :-) However, I hope someone might glean something of "value" from this.
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xperiweb:
Jan. 6th, 2005 @ 06:09 pm The Life Cycle -- Happiness and Accomplishments
Introduction
Growth
Maturity
Decline

I love using The Life Cycle -- which is often used in business regarding products -- because it is a universal principle that applies to so many life problems.

Okay, so I apply the universal "Life Cycle" principle to our happiness in relationships and work. Again, I'm being really simplistic and leaving stuff out because I just don't have the time and financial luxury of elaborating on a lot of stuff -- that means the "quality" of how and what I say is diminished. But of course, I'm interested in hearing what others have to say.

I'm *also* going to add a "crisis" section underneath each phase to state the "negative" aspects of the phase moving forward.

The introduction phase is all about the newness of the thing. In relationships, that can be the first meetings and in work, the first few weeks. It's all about discovery and possibilities.
Crisis If one is always looking for the new, then nothing can grow and that deep intimate knowledge can never happen. A lot of superficiality occurs.

The growth phase is all about making things "happen". In relationships, this can mean moving towards getting a place together, vacationing, and blossoming the relationship with "truths" and healing each other's "pasts". In work, this can mean being in charge of a project that has a great effect on the work place.
Crisis If people get stuck in the growth stage they are more likely to never make anything "worthwhile" happen!

The maturity phase is all about standardizing and stabilizing. In relationships, this can mean getting married, having babies, getting a house, etc. etc... In work, this can mean setting standards, creating documentations, policies and procedures.
Crisis If you don't allow innovation and the intro, growth cycle to re-occur -- the road leads to decline and that means having to scramble to re-new the situation. Good planning allows for change.

The decline phase is about staleness. The relationship might undergo a divorce, separation, or an affair. In work situations, a lay-off, wanting to quit, or huge dissatisfaction might occur.
Crisis If this stage comes to the surface, it's hard to dig oneself out of the situation. A lot of people run and cut their losses but it doesn't have to be that way.
...

With this, we all have a "place" we love to hover about the most. For my partner it's the "Introduction and Growth" stage. For me it's the "Maturity and then back to Growth stage". In my case, when it comes to work, this means that I love to put together plans, document processes and procedures, and help stabilize; however, I DO NOT want to be stuck in what I created. Or forced by "upper management" to succumb to my own designs. I want the option of re-visiting, updating, and innovating.

If I don't have that option, I usually quickly have a crisis and usually choose to leave that employer.

...

Why is any of this important?

Because once you understand which area of the cycle you like to be in, you can either a) advise the people you live and work with, b) do things that allow you to stay in the cycle that's most comfortable and that can be done so in a healthy way.

i.e. My partner is most interested in the "growth" stages so he needs a lot of "chaos" and "fun" in whatever he does. I need stability. We balance each other off and since I'm also partial to growth, I really understand what he needs. Instead of forcing him to "stay" in the "maturity" mode, I give him breathers and pick up where he slacks and vice versa.

Again, this is all simple talk with a whole bunch of holes in the story. :-) However, I hope someone might glean something of "value" from this.
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xperiweb:
Jan. 5th, 2005 @ 06:32 pm Intro post thingie
Hi, I'm Stephen Booth. I'm an Oracle DBA working in the public sector in the UK.

I did the ANSIR test and got:
    Thinking: Idealist
    Working: Sentinel
    Emoting: Sentinel


I do have problems with communication, partially due to having a congenital disability, Dyspraxia. this affects communication in two ways. For one it messes with co-ordination so my handwriting is pretty much unreadable by anyone else so, as I am 34 so come from a generation that predates the widespread use of computers in schools, no one could ever read what I wrote and correct my spelling and grammar. Another effect is that it makes it harder for people who have it to handle non-literal concepts (e.g. shades of meaning, inference, metaphor &c) hence if someone with dyspraxia uses a word they're probably using it in it's precise definition. Both the physical and cognitive effects fade with age.
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1984 not manual
stephenbooth_uk:
Nov. 17th, 2004 @ 02:10 pm My Ansir answers
Hello, I'm new to this community. I noticed the Ansir link and decided to take the test. My score was:

Empath (Thinking)
Visionary(Working)
Empath (Emoting).

I still need to do a little more research to figure out exactly WHAT that means, but it was an interesting site/test.



My MBTI type: ENFP/INFP
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lunar_envy: